This belief is the greatest pitfall we entertain
How to get out of the trap
The biggest change I experienced in my life came when I realized the extent of my responsibility.
We all have gone through many experiences which have made of us the “person” we are today.
I would say:
They have formed my behavior
They built my beliefs and convictions
They have found the way I relate
If I would have made other experiences, I would probably have a different life.
This belief is one of the greatest pitfalls we entertain.
There’s nothing like a certain set of experiences required to become rich, feeling more lucky or whatever we’re soughing after in our lives.
Some experiences we plan, but most just happen like the weather.
Yet they’re not the root cause for the way we experience life unless we remain trapped.
We can choose the way we deal with it. In fact, we’re the creators of our lives.
It’s time to blow into our own sails…
I start by saying:
I have formed my behavior
I built my beliefs and convictions
I have found the way I relate
As long as we keep blaming circumstances and others for the way we feel, we continue swimming in the mud.
The easiest example to illustrate is:
You find yourself in a slowly decreasing long queue in the grocery shop after a busy work-day. Parents attempting to calm their shouting kids and elderly people aiming to collect the correct change at the cashier.
I bet most of us would be very stressed at that moment. Unconsciously, it can lead us to feel upset and angry.
Nothing wrong with anger or any other emotion. The key is to recognize the origin.
We will always experience such a situation that way, unless we realize it’s not the situation, but our beliefs, perception and actions.
The situation is what it is. We cannot change the situation itself, nor can the situation or someone else have an impact on how we experience it.
Realizing and changing our behavior ultimately changes our emotional perception.
It’s a process that takes time.
To get started, it’s sufficient to observe ourselves in all kinds of situations. Questioning why this emotion or thought rises within us? Acknowledging the consequences of our actions and recognizing our ability to change the way we encounter them.
Slowly realizing that finding happiness in life doesn't rely on a particular lifestyle or situation, but on our level of consciousness.